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October 31, 2011 Posted by Mark Oestreicher

To be completely honest from the start, my response in this instance is built on a substantial amount of relational currency. Meaning, because of the depth of the relationship between my kids and myself, I can say things to and do things with and ask things of them that not everyone can. To get to that place in a relationship takes a significant investment of time, coupled with patience and love. They need to know they can trust me. I show that to them through vulnerability and by maintaining integrity. After all of that, every relationship is unique, and the amount of currency available to spend varies.

I realized early on that the students in my ministry were under many influences. Gone were the days of a church-centered culture, even in the South. There was no longer an easily recognized language of faith, and words I took for granted were met with confused expressions. Quick and easy answers to life’s problems weren’t satisfying teens. I quickly found the need to go beyond teaching the right answers to the typical questions and instead focus on how those answers came to be. Here are a couple of ideas that shaped the way I teach adolescents.


Good question, Marko! I love this question because it is personal. The minute the word you is used in any question, the thinking moves from theories about others to practices about self. Far too many of us can be criticized for merely thinking about helping students develop an articulated faith as opposed to actually doing it.

I have a group of male HS seniors I meet with every Wednesday night. Currently, it is the highlight of my week. These boys are smart, skeptical, inquiring, analytical, etc., and their interest in faith exceeds most adults I know.

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